My Beautiful Life…. Confessions of a Facebook Addict

My life became so beautiful today!  Why was this day different from any other?  The answer is that I decided to take a REST from Facebook and haven’t been on it for more that 24 hours.  To some, this is not considered a great accomplishment as some  people have not let Social Media consume them as I did.  I have much respect for those who can practice self control in this area.

Today, as my precious husband and I found ourselves at “The Secret Garden”, falling in love all over again I realized that Facebook was interrupting our marriage in subtle ways that intruded on the very faces that mean the most to me.  Rather than publicizing our beautiful day on Facebook as I normally would do with an amazing selfie, I chose to tell my husband to his face what a special day today was.  We found a chapel, a garden with a terrace, and beautiful music playing in the woods and we were all alone.   No faces or facebook in sight.  We danced to  “Wonderful World” and laughed at our new wedding album we created in the chapel as we stood before each other , focusing on each other, loving each other.. with NO INTERRUPTIONS!!!  The best part was that I didn’t feel the pressure of posting this precious and sacred time with my sweet husband as I had done so often in the past.  It became personal to just us and made it extra special.

All day I was able to complete my sentences and thoughts without letting a facebook message steal my mind.

I realized that I was looking up all day, not down at my phone and my eyes were opened drastically in my first 24 hours off of Facebook!

It was only yesterday that I decided that I needed a rest from this lovely little apple device that had control over my mind, emotions, eating, feelings, and even interrupted my marriage.  The worst part of all was that I came to the realization that my addiction to Facebook became more important than my time with God.   I still had my morning time , but the notifications from Facebook would light up as I was spending my quality time with God and I would quickly shift from my Bible to Facebook without giving it a second thought….until last week when I learned about half-obedience to God from a powerful message at church AND during my personal time with God where HE led me to Numbers 20.  I  had no idea that Moses didn’t get to go into the Promised Land because of his half obedience.  I was reminded in this part of the Bible about Idoltry and how the Isrealites would make idols to worship other than the one  and only living God.  Usually this was a result of unrest in their land, kind of like our Nation right now.  It became painfully clear to me that Facebook had become an idol to me.. ironically on a device that has an apple on the back of it with a bite taken out of it!

I have had much more time now to think about how much of my life I have wasted on Social Media and I   knew that I had to renew my mind.  Prayerfully, I made the necessary change as my mind did not rest with the images, videos, horrible news, hate, violence, gossip that would flood my day.. minute by minute.I would see so many things on Facebook that I don’t need to see or even know about.

Today, God set me free from this addiction and my mind is free to see beautiful things, beautiful people, and a beautiful life.

These were some of the immediate results of not getting on facebook for my first 24 hours:

  • I felt free and more expressive
  • I was in a very good mood
  • My mind explored new territory
  • My time with God and in His Word was beyond powerful!
  • I looked in my Husbands eyes, not a posted selfie on Facebook and found meaning, love, and purpose.
  • I looked UP, not DOWN
  • I engaged with more people if they were not looking down in the depths of their phone.
  • I was less anxious ( not allowing the news on my feed to choke the truth of God)
  • I realized posting details about my life could hurt someone, upset someone, make someone mad or jealous or sensationalize me, not GOD!
  • I understood that my posts, mostly very positive , pictures, or scripture were filling a void in my life to be accepted, or sometimes there was even a competitive spirit attached.  Although all posts were very genuine, posting can never replace human interaction.
  • For me, I would also sometimes attach pride to my posts and God revealed to me that he wants me to SHOW His children love, not post about it.
  • God wants me to SERVE others, not “like” the people and posts about serving.
  • God wants me to SPEAK and TEACH His word, not form it in a delicate statement that will “offend”, or “NOT offend ” someone.
  • God wants me to know TRUTH; not decipher a breaking news story, or gossip, lies, filth,
  • I smiled, a lot!

Today I looked UP and not DOWN and I FELT God’s love, my husband’s love, and even the love in my dog’s eyes, I looked deep into a friends eyes as she shared dinner with us…..a feeling that I remember from so many years ago, before Facebook existed…WONDERFUL!

For the record: I am not bashing Facebook or its users, my account is still ” active’ as there are some amazing things that technology have brought us!  I have re-connected with many beautiful people that I haven’t seen in years, and would have never seen again without Facebook.  I have also been blessed with some amazing online Bible Studies and devotions.  For me , I was letting it replace my life, constantly and was most definitely LESS than Wonderful!

I can REST in not having to know about everything minute by minute!

AHHHHHH:

 

Renewing my mind about

Everything

Social Media

Taught me

 

Looking UP, NOW I see!

Besides, I already know how it is all going to end because my Father in Heaven provided something far richer, 100% true, with answers for everything, and its even a spiritual weapon:

HIS BEAUTIFUL WORD!!!

This is where I find my hope, peace, joy and love!

Even as I sit on my back porch writing this blog, a man drove through the graveyard that overlooks my yard and I was looking UP, my husband and I smiled and waved to him.  He stopped his car and got out to thank us for waving to him… he cried… he was a man hurting and God used us to touch him.. again , I was looking UP.

I would encourage you to do the same… keep looking UP so you don’t miss any of the beauty God has to show you!

Miscellaneous thoughts:

Apple in Eden……………………Apple in Iphone

Eve bit the Apple…………… Apple logo has a bite taken out of it

Tree of knowledge………. Internet

Satan uses knowledge to lure Eve………… We now have knowledge at our fingertips.

In the Old Testament, the people followed a cloud that was God moving among them and guiding them…..today we have an icloud that follows us .

Final note:  My husband has told me several times over the last 24 hours how pretty I looked… coincidence? Nope… I don’t have that numb, inexpressive, Facebook Zombie appearance.  It has melted into smiling even more than I already do!

I’m sure I will be back on Facebook one day, but not until my mind is renewed and strong enough to not let it master me……………………So far, I don’t really miss it as much as I though it would!

May you REST in God’s love tonight!

Ephesians 4:20 -22 says :  But that is not the way you learned Christ!-assuming that you have heard about him and were taught in him, as the truth is in Jesus, to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of our minds, and to put on “the new self”, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.”

 

 

 

Testing Testing 1 2 3

Testing testing 123:

It’s the familiar sound check for a very unfamiliar scenario that I found myself in last week. A webinar. I was asked to teach a one hour webinar on Resident Retention for the Greater Dayton Apartment Association. A year ago, I would have never agreed to speak in front of people or to teach a webinar and now all of a sudden, it’s happening. What has changed, how did this happen?

My fear of speaking and my lack of confidence has suddenly melted. In spite of the embarrassing introduction the sound tech made by instant commenting “Hell” rather than “Hello”under my name, I didn’t let it stop the introduction that God has placed on my heart that very morning. I was confident in how God was going to tie HIS word into a business topic that was going to reach hundreds of Property Managers and Leasing Agents.    I had prayed the night before for God to use me in a mighty way and I trusted that HE would. He gracefully gave me each word with so much joy and confidence and I found myself teaching how to speak the truth in love, forgiveness, and that all people matter.   I ended with 1 minute to spare, took a deep breath, and wasn’t sure if they would ever ask me back. When the door opened and the director had a huge smile on her face, I knew all was well.   She was very pleased and asked me to do more webinars. Who would have thought?   What has changed, how did this happen?

I can honestly say that reading and applying Gods word daily has changed me and renewed by mind.  Ephesians 4-6 has defined everything that I now strive to be. Ephesians 4:1-2 says  “ Walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing forbearance to one another in love”.  My purpose, my direction, my mission, and my identity has been made perfectly clear to me in this scripture.    I now KNOW who I am in Christ without a doubt, and finally have a confidence that can only come from my Father in Heaven. So now, whether I’m teaching a womens Bible study  or doing a webinar for business reasons, God’s word and God’s spirit continue to lead me and HE takes me places I could have never imagined.

A young lady who listened to the webinar that morning shared that she wanted the joy I had inside of me and didn’t know how to find it! A door opened…….

” Grace be with all those who love our Lord Jesus Christ with a love incorruptible.” Ephesians 6:24

 

 

 

 

 

 

I want you to know WHY!

Yesterday was one of the most challenging days in the life of our teen and for us as parents.  I want you to know WHY.

Last night as the evil one slowly crept into our living room and wanted to destroy each of us, he FAILED!  I want you to know WHY!

Even what the enemy meant for evil, God used it for HIS good!  I want you to know WHY!

Through the evening of  peer pressure,  hurtful words, the broken hearts, the grounding from the phone.. love remained!  I want you to know WHY!!!

After an evening that interrupted our plans of fun, we were able to shed tears, snuggle, laugh, and get an amazing night of sleep and REST!  I want you to know WHY!

The details of WHAT happened do not matter and do not need to be shared, BUT the reason and the results are so exciting that I couldn’t wait to share them this morning.

Friends, even during the MIDST of a teenage meltdown, CALL on the name of GOD to help you and HE WILL!  GOD will engineer the circumstance that is going on in ways that are unimaginable and will give you LOVE to pour out even in the painful moments of life.

A  wise woman, named Janice, told me years ago to “do what is right and leave the details to God”… I challenge you to try it!  It is the answer and as I clung to God’s word last night, I did what was right and HE DID take care of the rest!   I prayed for wisdom and for words…HE gave them to me… GOD brought Ephesians 4 to life as I realized it was time to put it into action quickly!     I was able to teach precious Rachel what God says about forgiveness, about not letting the sun go down on our anger, about the power of words and how they can destroy.  We talked about peer pressure and honoring our parents and choosing to live in GOD’s plan.  My husband and I took what was evil and used it for the glory of GOD.    Within an hour, the peace of GOD was flowing in our little family like never before.  God used this time for Rachel to open up about even more things that are going on in her life.    What a blessing to have gone to bed with a stronger bond than the 3 of us had ever had before.  Actually, we need to include GOD in that number… the 4 of us!

This was our first big teenage conflict and it was scary!  Rachel is our 17 year old angel and we just ended up having all of the life lessons at once with her.  We were ALL able to witness God’s hand in the midst of the potentially bad situation.  HE carried each of us, HE protected each of us, HE healed our hearts, and HE poured out his love lavishly!

One of my favorite moments came when Rachel, who is grounded from her phone for the weekend, said ” I really need a break from my phone and all of the drama, I don’t want it back.”   While she may not know it, GOD has convicted her heart to REST and to pause on the things of this world.  What an unexpected lesson for me to learn from Rachel!!!

Take a moment today and read Ephesians 4.  I am involved in a very deep study of Ephesians that I know GOD used in my life for this very moment.  He was equipping me in ways I didn’t even know!

This morning, I am filled with joy, I am grateful, and I witnessed miracles right in my own living room last night!  I just wanted you to know WHY!

May you REST in doing what is right, and leaving the details to GOD!

Kelly

 

 

 

Resting in complete surrender…..

Honestly, there are days when surrendering to the couch or to chocolate may seem to solve all of the challenges that are presented to me minute by minute, day by day…  All of my questions, all of my hope could be buried in these places of hopelessness, left stagnant, left to torment me if I choose to allow them to….

Honestly, there are days when my body seems to surrender into it’s own world and my mind lingers to that place with it, leaving me tired, leaving me dry, and leaving me without peace, without REST.

Honestly, there are days when I would rather cry like a baby than make the choice to surrender to the will of God because of the fear and the uncertainties.  All of the” what if’s” seem to be a headline in my mind and my heart doesn’t seem to want to counteract them, but rather join the doubt and dance together with a silent plan of the evil ones’ destruction.

Then, God’s word is there waiting for me to drink it in, waiting for me to absorb it in my body and my mind.  Waiting for me to surrender all emotion to His precious Word.  Waiting for my heart to see Him in my circumstance.  His Word, His LOVE, His promise is there for me to receive and believe, to speak power and truth, to hold me and comfort me.

Once the battle with myself is over, the Word of God always wins and it is THERE, I find my rest… physical rest, mental and emotional rest, a rest that is complete because HE is the source, HE is providing it.. A rest that HEALS from the inside out.

“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.  Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord God is an everlasting rock.” Isaiah 26:3

Today, this scripture that I have been so familiar with for years  became so personal to me and I have REST…. He keeps me in perfect peace tonight as my mind and emotions try to stray, my heart trusts in HIM and my mind will STAY on HIM.. He is my ROCK!!!

May you have REST tonight in this beautiful promise, no matter what your circumstance is right now, let HIS Word embrace you, let it tuck you into bed tonight, let HIM love you,

Kelly

 

Thumbs UP!!!!

I attended one of the most beautiful memorial services this morning for a dear woman who is the mother and grandmother of some precious people in my life.  This service was a true celebration of her life, but even more of a celebration of her life in Christ.  The legacy left behind will live on and touched many people who attended today.  Just hearing more about her faithfulness to God by loving, serving, teaching, and her compassion made me quickly realize that I desire to be just like her…she was like Jesus!  While I never had the privilege to spend much time with her, it was evident by her fruit and by the way she reflected the love of Jesus which shined so brightly today through her loving family.

When Pastor Ringhiser leaned into her ear as she was in her final days and asked, “Mom, are you ready to go meet Jesus”? , she couldn’t speak but she gave the BIGGEST thumbs up ever.

The memorial service went on with her grandchildren and her adult children spilling over with the love of Jesus that she instilled in them.

In closing, 1 Thessalonians 4:13-15 was read:

” And now, dear brothers and sisters, we want you to know what will happen to the believers who have died so you will not grieve like people who have no hope.  For since we believe that Jesus died and was raised to life again, we also believe that when Jesus returns, God will bring back with him the believers who have died.  ”

Can you REST in this promise as Millie did?

The service ended with Pastor Ringhiser asking us to give a big THUMBS UP!

As the year is still fresh and new, I will always remember this Thumbs up with new perspective and with a big smile!

Thanking God today for Mille and the Ringhiser family.  They have all been a blessing to me at some point in my life over the last 12 years!

 

 

 

God’s attention to detail gives me REST!

As the end of 2015 quickly approached, many of you saw a post on Facebook that I wrote.  I was excited to share how God used so many new people in my life last year to rekindle my passion for HIM.  I “tagged” a few people in this post that were a part of this story in my life.   Later in the evening, I received a message from someone close that seemed hurt that they were not “tagged”, even though they have been a part of my entire life.  I certainly didn’t want this post to hurt or offend anybody and so I second guessed myself and decided to remove the post .  As I was making numerous attempts to “remove” , I repeatedly received a message that said ” cannot remove message at this time, try again later”.  This is something I had never seen before.  So I waited and out of pure emotion, I tried again later.  This time, when I logged on, I saw my post in a place that once more gave God the honor and Glory HE deserves.   I was humbled, shocked, overwhelmed , and wept as HE confirmed that the post was to be shared even in my doubt.  The post was now a part of even a broader audience and posted by someone who has made a huge difference in my walk with God in 2015.  I have shared the link to DeeperStillMinistries by Lisa Meiners so that you may experience exactly how incredible this really is!

https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=1012946308768275&id=202824816447099&substory_index=0

So as I begin 2016, I have already learned the POWER of God and that HIS plans will continue no matter what doubts or insecurities  I may have.

He has so personally revealed to me how very intimate HE is involved in the details of my life!  This gives me HOPE and I can REST in HIM once more!  What an amazing way to begin this new year!

I am also in shock of how this story unfolded right in front of my husband , who is rarely at a loss for words, but found himself speechless last night!

May you find REST in knowing and believing that GOD’s attention to the details of your life are very real!

Happy New Year with much Love,

Kelly

 

 

Resting in God’s Faithfulness

“Paul spent a 24-hour period treading water in the deepest parts of the sea. Yet it didn’t scare him away from getting on the very next ship to continue his trip and go where God ordered him to go. It was just another impasse on the journey, but it didn’t stop his trip!

Likewise, you can’t let past bad experiences determine your future actions. Consider what would have happened if Paul had said, “That’s it! I’m never getting on another ship!” If he had taken this approach, the devil would have stopped Paul from traveling by sea to get to areas where he needed to go. But instead of letting fear grip his mind, Paul put away all thoughts of fear and boarded the next ship”

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I found Gods faithfulness through my disastrous driving record! Fear is a daily battle for me every time I get into a car as a driver or a passenger.   I have been in 9 car accidents!  I have totaled 5 cars!  2 of my mangled cars have been the top story of the news in Cincinnati and Dayton!  Yes, I have asked God WHY???

I found rest when He showed me that He is faithful when we cry to Him as I did when I was  sliding down 75 upside down for a mile and a half during rush hour.

I saw HIM on 71 in Cincinnati when a gas tank of another car was dangerously in my face.  He literally sent an angel to comfort me in the form of a beautiful woman.  I saw her, felt her rub my face, and heard her phone my husband.  When I asked the fire department who she was as they used jaws of life to remove me, they told me nobody was there! I knew differently, and so did my husband!

I found rest in HIM as my protector!  I have no physical damage from these accidents.   Emotionally, it has been challenging when I recall the trauma of the one that sent my mother to the hospital via life flight, but HE has been faithful to HEAL and restore her!

Finally, I find REST in my question WHY????  God has shown me that HE has a purpose for me and that HE is a mighty God that I can trust every time I get into the car to do HIS work before me!

I challenge you today to seek Gods face in your past experiences to give them a fresh new meaning. While each of our pasts look different, God remains the same and is FAITHFUL to reveal himself to you.. Your bad memory can turn into something beautiful when it reflects the face of God!

Im thankful for God giving me His WORD to rest in!  Paul is my hero for getting back on the ship over and over again no matter how fearful it was .  It took time for me and a season of anxiety pills, but now it takes Faith , Grace, and TRUST IN HIM!

Rest in Him today!

 

Kelly

I found rest! True rest! God’s rest!

http://deeperstillministries.com/blog/2015/10/20/the-quest-for-rest/

The link posted above was the beginning moment of my quest4rest and a pivotal point in my walk with God.  It includes a piece that I wrote for Deeper Still Ministries and  I would love to share with you as we continuously seek REST from God!

I finally found myself resting in who HE is and craving to find REST through HIM and His Word  in ALL areas of my life!

Are you craving rest from this world of chaos?  It is possible through God’s transforming power in our hearts and in our minds!

May you REST in Him today!

Kelly

Exciting moment for Quest4Rest!

Today is a very exciting day for me as I begin a blog of my “Quest 4 Rest”.  This has been  a lifelong journey, so we have a lot of catching up to do!  It is my prayer that God will use these blogs and His precious word to strengthen you by entering into this place of rest.  I know my journey isn’t over until my final rest in heaven is complete, but the importance of  finding rest in this restless world is life-changing!  Stay tuned!

Jesus said: ” Come to me , all you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”  Matthew 11:28

May you REST in HIM today!

Kelly